Saturday, May 9, 2026

Healthy Self Doubt

 https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/the-benefits-of-mixed-emotions/


"We’ve all been in situations where we experience mixed emotions. Maybe you’ve felt both joy and sadness during a big life decision, such as whether to purchase a home or accept a job offer. Or maybe you’ve experienced mixed feelings about the ways the COVID-19 pandemic has shaped your life. Psychologist Naomi Rothman says that while these feelings of ambivalence are uncomfortable, they can also serve us in important ways."

The best leaders feel torn. They are not totally sure of themselves. They can see many perspectives and this makes decision making difficult. 


Having healthy self doubt. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PmTVqmje0I


It has been many years since I posted

 It has been many years since I last posted. I thought I would share something now. I continue to have hearing aids to help me with my hearing loss. I continue to protect my hearing with earmuffs when I mow the lawn. I continue to practice the trumpet with a practice mute to further protect my hearing as I practice trumpet daily. I have started reading B. F. Skinner's book - Enjoy Old Age. I read this book years ago when I was in my 20s. I am reading it again as I get to the end of my 60s. I have been running 5Ks for years now. My latest race time was 29:23. I have gotten a good start to my races this year, completing the last 2 races in under 30 minutes. My training times are much slower and I have been running shorter training runs to build up prior to a race. I also take the before the race off from running. I continue some cross training with strength training, walking, bike riding and use of the elliptical occasionally. That's all for now. 

Saturday, June 13, 2020

Hearing loss and Dementia

https://www.alzdiscovery.org/cognitive-vitality/blog/can-hearing-aids-help-prevent-dementia

Mild hearing loss is associated with two-fold greater risk for dementia, while severe hearing loss is associated with 5 times greater risk over 10 years [4]. Several longitudinal studies have found that the rate of cognitive decline is accelerated in dementia patients with hearing loss [5]. Participants with hearing loss experienced rates of cognitive decline that were 30-50% faster than those with normal hearing [6][7].
A recent study following over 1,000 participants in the Rancho Bernardo Study of Healthy Aging for up to 24 years found that hearing impairment was associated with faster age-related declines in global and executive cognitive function [8]. The cognitive decline associated with mild hearing loss was reduced in individuals who attained higher education, but education could not protect against declines associated with moderate to severe hearing loss.

Wednesday, May 20, 2020

Rules for Civility from a book by P. M. Forni



Choosing Civility, The Twenty-five Rules of Considerate Conduct, by P. M.
Forni, 2002. 185 pages, notes.


The 25 rules, for example, are a good read, one a night, at
bedtime.


Here are the rules. Each has a few pages of discussion:

 1 Pay attention
 2 Acknowledge others
 3 Think the best
 4 Listen
 5 Be inclusive
 6 Speak kindly
 7 Don't speak ill
 8 Accept and give praise
 9 Respect even a subtle “no”
10 Respect others’ opinions
11 Mind your body
12 Be agreeable
13 Keep it down (rediscover quietness)
14 Respect other peoples’ time
15 Respect other peoples’ space
16 Apologize earnestly
17 Assert yourself
18 Avoid personal questions
19 Care for your guests
20 Be a considerate guest
21 Think twice before asking for favors
22 Refrain from idle complaints
23 Accept and give constructive criticism
25 Don't shift responsibility or blame



Tuesday, March 31, 2020

Our Three Brains


OUR THREE BRAINS


Paul MacLean says that we have three brains.

MacLean called the first, most primitive, brain the reptilian brain. It is focused on individual survival and knows neither friend nor family nor fun.  In humans this consists of the brain stem, which maintains the vital functions of life, including heartbeat, breathing, metabolic activity, and the cerebellum. Even when extensive brain injury occurs, if these areas are preserved, life can continue.  The behaviors of this part of the brain are very resistant of change, tend to be grounded in fear, and are not capable of learning. This part of the brain is quite limited in its response to challenges. - Reptiles (or human operating in the reptilian mode), when perceiving threat, only attack, flee or freeze.

MacLean called the second brain the mammalian brain. It includes the amygdala, a more refined sentry for danger than exists in the reptilian brain. The amygdala joins with the hypothalamus, the pituitary and the adrenal glands to coordinate our most basic fight-flight-freeze responses to protect us from harm. The amygdala is activated automatically, without thought.  For example, you walk out your front door, and you see a shape on the grass that looks like a snake. You immediately jump back with fear.  Then you look more closely and you see the shape is actually a garden hose. You relax, laugh, and go on your way.  The initial reaction was the instinct of the early mammalian brain, including the amygdala.  If that’s all you had, you might have attacked or run away from the garden hose.

Our more evolved mammalian brain has a more sophisticated sentry, the hippocampus, capable of refined perceptions and feelings.  It was the hippocampus that helped you realize the garden hose was not a snake.  The hippocampus has the capacity for learning and memory, which gives mammals additional abilities.  Unlike a reptile, your pet dog recognizes and responds to you, and obviously makes the distinction between you and a stranger.

The third, highest, component is the human brain, which includes the large cerebral cortex, making up five-sixths of the brain.  This is our thinking brain, with numerous connections between the hippocampus and the prefrontal cortex.  The prefrontal cortex connects many large neural networks that allow for the various qualities of human thought, reflection, and wisdom.

The cerebral cortex is involved with most advanced mental activities including speech, rational thought, memory, understanding fine motor control, creativity, musical ability, writing, empathy, kindness, the ability to be part of a family or group and still be an individual, awareness of the story of your own life, and the recognition of time.

Most of the stress we experience cannot be handled well by the primitive brain, with its fight-flight-freeze reactions, or by the ancient or more advanced mammalian brains, with their limited capacities governed by instinct, group conformance, and pecking order.

 Only by accessing our human brain can we step back, reflect, and take conscious action. 

Taken from The Inner Game of Stress, W. Timothy Gallwey, pages 50-53.


Monday, February 3, 2020

Grit

Is grit a real word?
It means the person has courage and shows the strength of their character. ... A person who works really hard to follow through on commitments has true grit. It is not a word you hear very often.When stuck in "quicksand" the strategy that works is different than the strategy of being successful in a fist fight. More of life is about dealing with being stuck than dominating another person by physical force. Take a deep breath and notice the sensations in your body. Don't fight them. Don't let them be the enemy or the boss. Your struggle is your companion. Accept the struggle and do the next right thing. 

Friday, July 13, 2018

Separate Positive and Constructive Feedback - Aubrey Daniels


Separate positive and constructive feedback

Separate positive and constructive feedback: As noted above, this is the ideal approach—deliver positive feedback to the performer independent of constructive feedback.

Positive Feedback

Tell the performer what you liked and leave it at that.

Corrective Feedback

The next time the person has the opportunity to engage in that behavior, provide corrective feedback as a prompt for what they can try differently.  The feedback can be in the form of “This time, I’d like to see you…” or “Before you do “x” you might want to try “y” instead…”